“looks don’t matter, it’s how hard you work to achieve what you want” This is a saying that anybody would like to hide behind, especially when it comes to how beautiful or handsome you are to snatch your dream job or build your career. But before hand, what is this handsome, beautiful and better- looking face? And do how you look ever become a key to your ability to perform better in an organization? My lecturer once said she was denied a job because she was not the light- skinned lady the company wanted. That was a pleasant joke then, I laughed all my heart out not leaving a trace of it in me.
Beauty lies in the bear holder, but also lies in the beholder, him or her that tastes the beauty. The traditional way of describing some men as tall, dark and handsome is probably misplaced in a setting where “it lies in the beholder/bear holder.” Let’s not drift too far, let’s all sit down in class, on the rough seats, am the teacher, and I ask each of you; what do you describe your ideal woman or man whom if I say “Go for the beauty” you will probably walk and say “excuse me, could we share a coke?”. I have two girls and a boy in my class (the rest skipped school today. Their parents probably want to kill me ‘politically’). The two ladies as they say go first. There goes this one girl who says her ideal, sweet, kind, generous ooh… man, she says this rolling her milky white eyes, shaking her body in a swaggish way, “I need a tall, dark and handsome man, who will…” I told her to stop, did you hear me? She is feeling quiet romantic.
My next lady looks at me in a wonder, she forces a smile, and it seems she is totally uncomfortable with this topic. “I need a short, light-skinned, and…” she finds it difficult to finish the tormenting words. I am a no gender teacher so I walk to where she is and I hug her tightly, she lets tears flow down my shoulders, she later tells me she remembers her deceased father, he fits exactly the cut- short description of her ideal man, I listen to her story between sobs, we hug each other again.
My third ‘patient’ is this gentle, shy little man; he has quiet eyes, a peaceful smile and shaky hands. He probably fears a no gender teacher; would you be comfortable around a no gender person? He looks at me, holds my looks in his restless eyes and in such a great hurry he says, “I wish you were a woman, you fit the description of my woman.” Am annoyed, I quit teaching, I better be jobless than get my no gender status become the source of my ridicule.
That was then in my youthful days, now in my old age I ask, what do you consider beautiful or handsome in a woman or man? According to THE ELITE DAILY, passion defines a woman more than looks, a girl who gets excited about things, lives for things and holds things close to her heart; this according to THE ELITE DAILY is a girl worth knowing. THE ELITE DAILY which is the voice to generation-Y and premier online news platform, also talks about a woman who does not fight for the limelight, but is naturally endowed among other qualities is worth taking the ‘beautiful’ title home. An unverified study however says a woman is beautiful because of the beautiful state of her mind and her physique.
The most critical task of defining a handsome man is here. Women need to speak up at least, men need to know. This is one big task on my shoulder, but one thing I say “it is personal”.
So why talk about a personal feeling? Because if affects our very self being, our esteem and for the greater picture our own lives. When we get ‘discriminated’ on the basis of a ‘personal’ feeling, should we ignore then? I won’t talk about a better-looking face, because it exists not. A perfect being we are, created from an image of a perfect being, good and adorable we are so tell the evil council in your head saying, “this is good-looking and that is ugly” to stop the outdated discussion. Have you ever been confronted with a situation that requires the next person to help? Then you realize how each one of us is so sweet, good-looking, beautiful, cute and so cool. The appreciation of a being is the point. IS IT HOME, DRY AND SAFE?