I thought giving the title “the mind of a handsome guy” is too narrow so I choose “more than just a handsome guy” as the title of this captivating article.
These handsome guys come with a set of different features that are just too striking that ladies or even some men cannot take their eyes off them. They are those guys that ladies who hang around them have a class of their own.
However the grass is not green as it looks on the part of this handsome men. If for example we get tired of their looks, what more could they offer? Because after everybody is tired of looking at their striking features people search deeper to get the handsomeness in them not on them.
On the contrary when one searches deeper inside these “handsome men”, some of them do not have anything more inside of them but are just the normal fuckboys who can’t hold their sexual emotions even for another full second.
You know, what makes you stand out is not how handsome or good looking a man you are, but it is the more you have inside of you.
One thing I have noticed with handsome men is that, some of them are so wasted inside of them and what we only see and admire are their beautiful faces. One thing in life is not how ugly or handsome a man looks, it’s that inner handsomeness that matters.
Sometimes I see good looking men who are so into drugs, and I think to myself, probably they grew up being told how handsome they were and never built their inner self, and so when people stopped telling them they are handsome they wasted off.
A handsome man needs to build their inner self first. As a handsome man, you need to start reflecting on yourself and ask, “If I was not handsome, what would become of me?” that question will awaken you and slowly you will feed your soul with inner confidence and beauty.
At the end of the so called day, good looks are admirable and one can become a model, but not everyone can be. Everyman whether good looking or not needs to build their inner self and God will always be a helper to build your inner self.
“looks don’t matter, it’s how hard you work to achieve what you want” This is a saying that anybody would like to hide behind, especially when it comes to how beautiful or handsome you are to snatch your dream job or build your career. But before hand, what is this handsome, beautiful and better- looking face? And do how you look ever become a key to your ability to perform better in an organization? My lecturer once said she was denied a job because she was not the light- skinned lady the company wanted. That was a pleasant joke then, I laughed all my heart out not leaving a trace of it in me.
Beauty lies in the bear holder, but also lies in the beholder, him or her that tastes the beauty. The traditional way of describing some men as tall, dark and handsome is probably misplaced in a setting where “it lies in the beholder/bear holder.” Let’s not drift too far, let’s all sit down in class, on the rough seats, am the teacher, and I ask each of you; what do you describe your ideal woman or man whom if I say “Go for the beauty” you will probably walk and say “excuse me, could we share a coke?”. I have two girls and a boy in my class (the rest skipped school today. Their parents probably want to kill me ‘politically’). The two ladies as they say go first. There goes this one girl who says her ideal, sweet, kind, generous ooh… man, she says this rolling her milky white eyes, shaking her body in a swaggish way, “I need a tall, dark and handsome man, who will…” I told her to stop, did you hear me? She is feeling quiet romantic.
My next lady looks at me in a wonder, she forces a smile, and it seems she is totally uncomfortable with this topic. “I need a short, light-skinned, and…” she finds it difficult to finish the tormenting words. I am a no gender teacher so I walk to where she is and I hug her tightly, she lets tears flow down my shoulders, she later tells me she remembers her deceased father, he fits exactly the cut- short description of her ideal man, I listen to her story between sobs, we hug each other again.
My third ‘patient’ is this gentle, shy little man; he has quiet eyes, a peaceful smile and shaky hands. He probably fears a no gender teacher; would you be comfortable around a no gender person? He looks at me, holds my looks in his restless eyes and in such a great hurry he says, “I wish you were a woman, you fit the description of my woman.” Am annoyed, I quit teaching, I better be jobless than get my no gender status become the source of my ridicule.
That was then in my youthful days, now in my old age I ask, what do you consider beautiful or handsome in a woman or man? According to THE ELITE DAILY, passion defines a woman more than looks, a girl who gets excited about things, lives for things and holds things close to her heart; this according to THE ELITE DAILY is a girl worth knowing. THE ELITE DAILY which is the voice to generation-Y and premier online news platform, also talks about a woman who does not fight for the limelight, but is naturally endowed among other qualities is worth taking the ‘beautiful’ title home. An unverified study however says a woman is beautiful because of the beautiful state of her mind and her physique.
The most critical task of defining a handsome man is here. Women need to speak up at least, men need to know. This is one big task on my shoulder, but one thing I say “it is personal”.
So why talk about a personal feeling? Because if affects our very self being, our esteem and for the greater picture our own lives. When we get ‘discriminated’ on the basis of a ‘personal’ feeling, should we ignore then? I won’t talk about a better-looking face, because it exists not. A perfect being we are, created from an image of a perfect being, good and adorable we are so tell the evil council in your head saying, “this is good-looking and that is ugly” to stop the outdated discussion. Have you ever been confronted with a situation that requires the next person to help? Then you realize how each one of us is so sweet, good-looking, beautiful, cute and so cool. The appreciation of a being is the point. IS IT HOME, DRY AND SAFE?
They walk in packs; needless to say of the desperation they carry with them every step of their way.
They have something in common that binds them together and makes them look like they are in a mission.
A mission to take in as much illegal stuff as they can to be able to survive in the bondage they have been subjected to by the devil.
I have been observing these guys, they are of between the age of 19 to 24 and they all have completed their form four studies and because of the desperation they have turned to bhang smoking among other hard drugs to cool the nerves of despair.
This is the drug squad; they walk with a bounce because they feel they have taken over the world. I am lost without words as I see brothers sinking into drug addiction.
Today I will call them my brothers because they are people I have known since childhood and we have talked and laughed together, we went to the same schools and they come from my area.
I cry for this generation of which is slowly sinking into drug trafficking as a way of survival, they probably like all other youth have been told they are no jobs thus the desperation.
I cry for them because they have all it takes to take our country to the next level of innovation and in achieving our vision 2030.
I cry out for help on behalf of them because I see them using their energy to build a nation instead of using their energy to use and traffic drugs.
It is hard to take this bitter pill that my hands are tied and that I cannot help them, I am going to help them because they are my brothers.
Youth are getting into drug use and we sit back and think it’s not our responsibility; you and me who are sober minded can help a brother or a sister to come out of drug usage.
Do something, talk to those drug users and drug traffickers to stop the illegal drug businesses.
I am doing my role in writing to them to see a productive life away from drugs. What are you doing?
I pray that God would change the hearts of this young men and women to desist from drug usage.
Kindly say this prayer with me. “Dear Lord Jesus, we come before you crying out for a generation, Jesus you are the healer, heal our youth and give them a new beginning all over again. We step into your love and power so that you may make our youth righteous and may they desist from drugs. In Jesus name I pray. AMEN”
She keeps coming back after we all think she’s gone. She comes back to her husband who is endlessly kicking her and giving her a blow almost every day of her torturous week.
When women get assaulted by their husbands, some still choose to remain and seem not to see the potential death threat they are living with every day of their lives.
One woman for instance, has always attracted my attention. She lives close enough to home and her life seems to revolve around violence from her husband who has turned her to a punching bag. The villagers have tried talking to her to leave this husband, but she keeps coming back even after we all think she has left the husband for good.
The reason she keeps coming back, is not that she likes the kicks and blows, but she thinks her husband is able to sustain her. Sometimes I look at both of them (the woman and the husband) and I think it is romance on a new level.
Kenya as a country is constantly talking about the fight against domestic violence, but when we dig deeper into some marriages, it looks like some are “enjoying it”.
Not to speak of husbands who are being assaulted by their wives, but they are quiet enjoying life under the able “wife” who provides everything.
The message to give wives and husbands who are still in marriages which are violent is that, they should either walk away or if they are enjoying their lives, they better not kill one another.
Domestic violence has always been real. If the husband and wives have kids I can only imagine the torturous experience the kids are subjected to.
I have seen in some movies where kids are fed up with the wrangles between their parents and they sit them down and talk to them. In an African set up, can a kid sit their father or mother and tell them to stop fighting? I doubt. What then should kids do?
If you are a husband or wife in a marriage full of violence, you need to make a decision. Either choose life and walk away or choose death by remaining.
The choice is always with them who face such violence, some feel if they walk away they may not be able to sustain themselves. Come on! If God feeds the birds in the air what more would he do to his son or daughter who needs him or her urgently? Don’t be naïve and help yourself out.
When I first thought of writing this confession, I thought calling it, “me as a light pornographic watcher” was to be the best title for this article.
However after realizing I had conquered my struggle, I set myself up, put on my jumper and off I started writing.
After finishing form four and stayed home for a while (like 8 months), I realized I had started fantasizing what sex felt like, because I had never engaged in real sex and so me at 17 years was puzzled about the fun of it.
It was in this situation of wanting to know, that when my mum bought me my first phone, I quickly goggled the word “sex” and immediately went to the images section.
It felt it was not satisfying goggling only “sex”, within no time I was on naked men and later moving on to naked men fucking, naked gay men fucking and all that filth that led to masturbation.
All this time, as a saved boy in Christ. However my story was not like most pornographic watchers, who would watch moving images, mine was on still images and I stuck at that.
I felt I was only watching naked men and that’s all. I would constantly pray after watching such on my small screen phone and would ask God for forgiveness.
It was on this sticky muddy ground that I heard of one pastor, pastor Joseph Prince of New Creation Church preaching on God channel and speaking the message of grace.
I had bumped into him sometime back, but was not interested to listen to him. However when I was alone I found his preaching enjoyable to listen to.
He did not condemn me like other preachers would do, but he spoke like a father and his warmth in his preaching is what drew me closer to his ministry.
He would preach on the message of grace and at one time he talked of addictions, and he said that it was through the righteousness of Jesus to us that people can be freed from addictions.
I slowly started praying this prayer, “Jesus, I step into your righteousness, make me righteous as you, and may your grace be sufficient for me. Amen.”
It was a simple prayer but Jesus started working in amazing ways in my life, I am still saved and enjoying Christ every single day, and above all freed from watching pornography.
You can also say the prayer above, and accept Jesus Christ in your life; he will free you from all addictions.
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